But Who Takes Care of the Eldest Daughter?
When saying "No" is not an option. Let’s be real. For many eldest daughters - especially those in immigrant families - the idea of saying “no” isn’t just unrealistic; it’s borderline offensive. It feels like biting the hand that fed you, the hand that worked double shifts, packed your lunch, and left their entire life behind to give you a better one. That potential No is saddled with so much guilt. You’re not just the eldest daughter; you’re the translator, the cultural bridge, the unspoken “thank you” for every sacrifice your parents made. And so, you keep carrying it all - the family, the dreams, the guilt - because to drop even a tiny piece feels like dishonouring everything they worked for. I see you. It’s not fair, it’s heavy as heck, and yet you also feel a sense of duty to take care of your parents that supersedes all these feelings. So, let’s talk about it. This one’s for the eldest daughters who don’t have the luxury of tradit...