Helping Eldest Daughters step out of survival mode & into the life they want!

And stop letting life happen to you.              We’ve all had that moment - staring at the ceiling at 3 a.m., wondering how we got here. Not in a fun road-trip-with-friends-turned-adventure kind of way, but in an oops-I-accidentally-lived-the-same-day-for-three-years kind of way. It’s that moment when you realize you’ve been on autopilot, coasting through a life you didn’t exactly choose, but you definitely didn’t not choose, either. You’re living a life by default, a life of “I’ll get to it someday” and “next year, I’ll make a change.” But “someday” isn’t a real day on the calendar. And babe, we didn’t come this far, with all our dreams and sparkle, to live a life that feels like reheated leftovers. The good news? You don’t have to. You can take back the reins and live life by design. And guess what? You don’t need a life coach, a trust fund, or a fresh supply of motivational quotes on Instagram. You just need a little bit of a plan, a little bi...

How to recognize it, survive it, and climb your way out of it.              You ever wake up one morning, stare blankly at your ceiling fan, and think, “Is this it? Like...forever?” No dramatic music swells in the background. No meaningful montage of your life flashes before your eyes. You’re just there. Stuck. In the same town, the same routine, the same feelings, and you can’t quite figure out if this is what adulthood is or if you’ve somehow missed the exit to the better life that everyone else seems to have found. Introduction: “Is This My Life Now?” Hi, I’m Rae. And a few years ago, I had my very own “stuck in a rut” era. I had outgrown the city I grew up in (which was not-so-affectionately referred to as “The Black Hole”...by literally only me), but I didn’t know how to leave. It wasn’t the city’s fault, per se - it was beautiful if you looked at it through anyone else's eyes except my own. My family was there, and they were your typical bro...

A journey to freedom, clarity and bigger love.              Have you ever felt like life is one big emotional rollercoaster? One moment, you're on cloud nine, and the next, you're plunging into the depths of disappointment. It feels like your happiness depends on everything going just right - from the people you love, to the way your day unfolds, to the coffee order you desperately hope they don’t mess up. But what if I told you there’s a secret to stepping off this exhausting ride? Enter: the art of detachment. Before you roll your eyes and say, "Detachment sounds like giving up or being cold," let me stop you. Non-attachment isn’t about abandoning people, giving up on your dreams, or suppressing your emotions. It’s about freedom. It’s about creating space in your life to truly love, experience joy, and deal with challenges with clarity and grace. Let’s dive into the beauty of detachment and why it might just be the ultimate glow-up for your soul....

A detailed guide for all women (biological, trans, drag-queens, undecided).  Have you ever found yourself replaying relationship moments in your head, wondering why you reacted a certain way? Or maybe you're curious about why some people seem effortlessly secure in their connections while others struggle with anxiety or avoidance. The answer might lie in your attachment style. Don't worry - this isn’t a personality flaw; it’s a roadmap to understanding how you connect with others and how you can level up to a secure attachment style. Let’s dive in! The 4 Attachment Styles (and their sub types) Attachment styles are rooted in early childhood experiences and manifest in adult relationships. They are shaped by how our caregivers responded to our emotional needs. Let’s explore each style, how it’s formed, and how it shows up in behaviors: 1. Secure Attachment: The Gold Standard Overview: Secure attachment is formed when caregivers are consistently responsive, nurturing, and emoti...

A survival guide to feeling blue without falling into the blues.              Ladies, let’s talk. You know those days when you’re draped across your couch like a tragic Victorian heroine, blankly watching Netflix while a single tear dramatically rolls down your cheek? Or when you sit in your car in the driveway for just a few more minutes because the thought of entering your own house feels like too much? If this feels familiar, congratulations: welcome to your Sad Girl Era. It’s like a rite of passage, except no one wants to attend, and you didn’t get an invite - you just showed up. Introduction: Welcome to the Sad Girl Era, Population: You This era is for the girls who listen to Phoebe Bridgers at midnight like it’s their full-time job, for the ones who find themselves eating ice cream straight from the tub with a spoon (and then finish the tub - been there, done that), and for those who emotionally spiral because someone didn’t text back within...

It's not them, it's you - but also, maybe a little bit them. Let’s talk about jealousy: our not-so-guilty frenemy. You know, that ugly green-eyed monster that rears its head when your best friend announces she’s just been promoted to CEO, your sister-in-law shows up with the dreamiest handbag, or your coworker casually drops that she’s leaving on a three-week Mediterranean cruise (while you’re stuck working late to cover for her). Here’s the thing: jealousy gets a bad rap. We’re told from a young age that it’s a shameful emotion, one we should suppress and hide. But what if jealousy isn’t the villain of the story? What if it’s just...a really annoying bestie who won’t shut up about the things you secretly want? In this post, we’ll unpack why jealousy feels like such a personal attack, what’s really behind it (spoiler: it’s rarely about the other person), and how to keep it from turning into a full-blown emotional spiral. We’ll laugh, we’ll cry, we’ll metaphorically high-fiv...