Helping Eldest Daughters step out of survival mode & into the life they want!

 (And how to handle it all like a boss). We’ve all heard the phrase, “Being single is empowering!” and “Self-love is the best kind of love!” And sure, on some days, it feels like the ultimate slogan for your life. But let’s be honest for a second: sometimes, being single really sucks. I mean, truly, heartbreaking sucks. You’re scrolling through Instagram and see that couple on a romantic beach vacation, holding hands and staring into each other’s eyes. And then there's you, holding your phone like an awkward third wheel at the party - like, why do you even have the heart emoji in your phone when you have no one to send it to? But, wait - before you let the spiral of despair begin, let me remind you of something: you are a boss girl. And a boss girl doesn’t let a little thing like heartbreak ruin her. She heals that hurt, builds up her boundaries like a fortress, and keeps slaying life like the queen she is. So, let’s get real about the heartbreak side of being single (it’s not all ...

A hilariously honest love letter to flying solo. Oh, the single life! It’s often portrayed as a tragic state of existence in movies, where the protagonist sits in their apartment eating ice cream straight from the tub, wearing a blanket cape, and wistfully staring at couples frolicking in parks. But let me tell you something: being single is secretly the greatest gift you didn’t know you needed. Sure, relationships are lovely, with their shared laughs, heartfelt moments, and splitting the cost of Netflix. But single-hood is like a giant permission slip to live life exactly how you want, with no compromises. So, grab your blanket cape and a spoon (because we’re still eating that ice cream, but it’s for celebratory reasons now), and let’s dive into the joyous, ridiculous, and utterly fabulous perks of being single. 1. Your Schedule Is All Yours When you’re single, your calendar is as free as a bird in a Disney movie. Want to spend the entire weekend binge-watching The Great British B...

And bring on your limitless potential - ‘cause you're worth it! Ladies, let’s talk about something we’ve all wrestled with at one point or another: the scarcity mindset. You know, that nagging voice that whispers, “There’s not enough” - not enough time, money, energy, love, or opportunity. It’s draining, and frankly, it’s holding us back from living our most fabulous, fulfilled lives. But here’s the good news: you’re not stuck with it. With a little intention and a lot of self-love, you can shift to an abundance mindset - a perspective that sees the world as brimming with possibilities. Ready to dive in? Let’s explore how to leave scarcity thinking in the dust and embrace the life you deserve. What Is a Scarcity Mindset, and Why Does It Matter? A scarcity mindset is like wearing blinders that focus only on what’s missing. It makes you feel trapped in a cycle of fear and lack. For example, ever felt anxious that someone else’s success diminishes your own potential? That’s scarcity t...

And stop letting life happen to you.              We’ve all had that moment - staring at the ceiling at 3 a.m., wondering how we got here. Not in a fun road-trip-with-friends-turned-adventure kind of way, but in an oops-I-accidentally-lived-the-same-day-for-three-years kind of way. It’s that moment when you realize you’ve been on autopilot, coasting through a life you didn’t exactly choose, but you definitely didn’t not choose, either. You’re living a life by default, a life of “I’ll get to it someday” and “next year, I’ll make a change.” But “someday” isn’t a real day on the calendar. And babe, we didn’t come this far, with all our dreams and sparkle, to live a life that feels like reheated leftovers. The good news? You don’t have to. You can take back the reins and live life by design. And guess what? You don’t need a life coach, a trust fund, or a fresh supply of motivational quotes on Instagram. You just need a little bit of a plan, a little bi...

(Spoiler alert: it's not what you think!)              Ahhh wouldn't it be great if I could just hand you the cheat code to confidence? If it was that easy I would, believe me! Usually the path people follow is to build up gradual experience (usually through making a fool of themselves along the way) that gives them the confidence to continue. But how are you supposed to feel confident about anything when there’s no successful experiences to back you up? Honestly, how are you supposed to walk into your new job and feel like a boss when you have no idea what you’re doing? Or go to a party full of strangers and charm the room when you’re convinced no one really likes you? Or be a calm, cool, and collected partner when your relationship history looks like a bloopers reel from a bad romantic comedy? It’s like confidence is reserved for an exclusive group where only the lucky ones get an invite. The rest of us? We’re stuck circling outside in our metaph...

Remove the mental blocks that stop you from living the life you want.              Alright, picture this: there’s a little bird named Lulu (listen...it's late at night, the bird names aren't flowing). Lulu’s just learned to fly, but her wings are still a bit wobbly. One day, she sees a bunch of other birds soaring high above a massive canyon. They make it look effortless, gliding through the air like they own the sky. Lulu gets all excited and decides she wants to try it too. She flutters to the edge, flaps her wings like mad, and leaps. But—oh no—she panics halfway across and makes a crash landing on a scraggly bush halfway down the canyon wall. She’s embarrassed, bruised, and convinced she’ll never be one of those majestic, swooping birds. So, Lulu stays perched on that bush, watching the others fly, thinking, "That’s just not for me." Fast forward a bit: Lulu’s wings get bigger and stronger. She’s got everything she needs to fly higher than ever...

Build your armour against the mean girls.              Alright, ladies, let’s talk resilience. Life is tough, and sometimes we just need to roll up our sleeves (or, let’s be real, put on our comfiest sweatshirt) and face the chaos head-on. Whether it’s juggling career, raising kids, or dealing with your never ending to-do list, life throws curveballs at us all the time. But the good news? Resilience is like a muscle - it can be flexed, toned, and glamorously accessorized with grit. Here’s your guide to becoming the strong, unstoppable queen that you know you are. 1. Care About Something Bigger Than Your Bubble Here’s the thing - focusing solely on ourselves can lead to an endless spiral of overthinking. Trust me, it’s a ride you don’t want to be stuck on. But when you step outside your own worries and start caring about someone or something else - whether it’s a cause, a community, or your bestie’s new business idea - you unlock a hidden superpowe...

Because we ALL need to find our way.              One day (a looong time ago), my friend Katie and I were lounging on the worn leather couches in the lobby of our university campus, sipping coffee and dodging our midterm study sessions. (We were basically getting the full college experience). With her mouth full, and half eaten croissant in her hand, she turned to me, wide-eyed, and said, “I think I want to drop out and become a photographer.” Now, if you knew Katie, you’d understand just how WILD this sounded. She was studying finance, interning at a bank, and basically prepping for the big corporate climb. But sitting there, croissant crumbs on her face, staring at the posters of past alumni who’d "made it," she suddenly realized that she’d spent her entire life chasing something she didn’t even really want. And, well, it shook me up too. Could I say with 100% certainty what I wanted? We stayed on those couches for hours that afternoon, throwing ...